When it’s time to let go of your Marriage…

Letting Go of MarriageIf your marriage is coming to an end and divorce is imminent, it is important for you to learn to Let Go of Your Marriage. The spouse who initiates the divorce process has most likely already begun to let go and prepare to move on to a new phase in life. However, the spouse that is being left may need help with Grieving the Marriage, Accepting that its ending and Moving On to a life as a newly divorced, single person. Realize that it’s okay to Celebrate the Marriage rather than only focusing on the problems. Resources such as Divorce Education Classes from AMS Mediation can be very beneficial in dealing with emotional, legal and logistical aspects of divorce.

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Create Your Own Parenting Plan…It’s in Your Children’s Best Interests

Children benefit when their parents, the people who know and love them most, make decisions about their upbringing in the aftermath of divorce/separation.

I recently came across a well written blog, by Kathleen Bar-Tur, a LCSW and FIPA in NYC. The title? “I Don’t Love Your Children.” Here’s a brief overview…A well respect judge shared with her the speech given to parents who appear in family court; it goes like this:

“First, I ask them what they are doing in my courtroom. They explain they are there to settle a custody issue. I then ask them, “Do you love your children? Well, then what are you doing here? Because, I don’t love your children. I don’t even know your children and you are putting your children into the hands of a total stranger who doesn’t love them”.

Consistent with my own personal and professional experience, Kathleen states that divorcing parents often believe that a fair, impartial, and honest judge will see the situation as it really is (from that parent’s perspective) and rule accordingly (in the best interests of the children). Isn’t that the purpose of family court? Unfortunately, even an excellent judge can’t and won’t know your children as well as you; and despite your belief that the right answer is obvious – it may not be so obvious to a stranger who doesn’t know anything about you, your spouse or your children.

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Divorce Trials in Minnesota

Minnesota divorce trials are stressful, expensive, and emotional. Since Minnesota court dockets are backlogged, it may take months to schedule a trial. The parties often dread the trial date as it approaches. Divulging the details of one’s marriage in front of a judge is scary for most, and being cross-examined by the opposing attorney is often even more frightening. It is not uncommon for trials to be continued (sometimes at the last minute) wasting valuable time and resources, not to mention causing unnecessary stress.

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Family Law Divorce Mediator

AMS Mediation provides the best professional divorce and parenting services in the business. My goals are to be efficient, effective, respectful, informative and non-judgemental, and with my satisfied clients, I feel proud to say that no matter how difficult your situation is, I can provide you with the tools and help you need to make these situations better. I have a respectful relationships with all of my clients, and because I value you and treat you as my client, my business motto is based around your needs and empowers you as an individual. I am fair, affordable and work with each client as individuals to develop solutions that will help your unique situation. Two key components of my philosophy are conserving financial resources and developing successful Parenting Partnerships.

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Spousal Support Mediator

AMS Mediation of Burnsville, Minnesota, has lent their expertise in the area of mediation to divorcing couples with professionalism and vast knowledge of the processes pertaining to divorce. A well-known and complex aspect of divorce settlements is alimony, which is also known as ‘spousal support.’ If a court determines that one member of the couple is responsible for providing support for their divorcing spouse, AMS Mediation can assist in the implementation of that agreement. In addition, if you decide that you would like to work with your ex-partner to determine parameters around spousal support, a mediator can assist you with this process.

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Parenting Mediation in Minnesota

Child Custody Mediation MNIncreasingly, divorcing parents are using mediation services to settle divorce proceedings, in lieu of the more familiar court processes. There are many advantages to taking part in mediation services, especially as it pertains to child-custody mediation.

Divorce is one of modern life’s most difficult stressors, and the tension that it can produce between divorcing parents is not only enormous, but can blind parents to the negative impact of their anger and tension on their children. The temptations of anger are great, but the well being of the children must be made paramount.

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Divorce Options

Divorce is undeniably stressful and has the reputation for bringing out the worst in people. Conflict and emotions are high and many difficult decisions must be made under duress in order to separate the two intertwined lives. You must decide how to divide your property, assets (and debts), settle on a parenting plan for how the kids will spend their time and come to an agreement on any child and/or spousal support. Many assume that hiring a lawyer and letting the court help you settle your divorce is the best (or only) way to navigate a divorce. Another option that has become more popular over the last decade is to use divorce mediation instead of the courts to settle a divorce. Mediation focuses on finding areas of compromise and common ground rather than exacerbating conflict. AMS Mediation offers high quality divorce mediation services for couples in the Burnsville area who are considering their options for settling their divorce.

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Best Way To Manage Parenting Problems After A Break-up?

When a divorce is finalized, there is a collective sigh of relief, as an often highly stressful time has been resolved, even if the parties are not entirely happy with the outcome. However, in most cases, problems can still come up after the divorce (or break-up) is final and many couples struggle with how best to handle these issues. Mediation is an effective tool that can be used for divorced couples who continue to interact and share responsibilities, especially related to issues surrounding children and co-parenting. AMS Mediation specializes in providing mediation services for those in the Shakopee, MN area who are going through the divorce process as well as after a divorce is final.

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Cost of Divorce Mediation

In addition to the emotional difficulty of navigating a divorce, many also worry equally about the financial burden it will cost to legally separate your lives so that both you and your divorcing spouse can move forward. Lawyer fees, court costs can add up quickly with experts estimating that a Minnesota divorce can cost between $15,000- $20,000 if navigated through the traditional court system. Mediation offers a less expensive alternative to a court battle, costing less, taking less time and is generally less stressful than a court battle. AMS Mediation can help you and your family settle your divorce in a way that is affordable, fair and effective. Amber Serwat has personal experience with the divorce process and uses that experience combined with her mediation training to help those in the Shakopee, MN area find their way forward.

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Spousal Support Mediator

AMS Mediation, based in Burnsville, Minnesota, provides excellent advocacy when it comes to divorce mediation and all aspects of the processes associated with it. One specific area of focus is helping couples settle issues surrounding Spousal Support (which is sometimes referred to as ‘alimony’).

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