Going through a divorce is an extremely difficult time for people, and even if both parties are feeling neutral over the situation, oftentimes kids have a very hard time with divorce and it is extremely important to be mindful of this when going through a separation no matter how hard or mutual it may be.

As a divorced parent of two, school-aged children and a step-parent, I have personal experience that has contributed to my success as a mediator, and my personal journey can help you. Without proper safeguards parenting after a divorce can be emotionally overwhelming, with the legal system and financial stresses, and that is why having a mediator to help you resolve some of these issues and guide you through the process it can be very devastating and destructive.

Co-parenting as divorced is not an easy task and in order to do it successfully, it is important to have communication, flexibility, compliance, be able to negotiate and be positive. Oftentimes communication is the biggest problem between parents and if parents are able to effectively communicate with one another, then a lot of issues are resolved. Professional parenting specialists can help make this process easy.

Kids that are products of divorce often are affected 7 different ways.

  • Kids often act out at school but take on more responsibility at home. Many children will help out more at home to make up for the second parent being around, but oftentimes have a hard time adjusting and lash out at school do to the at home stress’s.
  • Kids usually feel a sense of relief. Surveyed kids have admitted wishing their parents would get a divorce because of the tense atmosphere at home. Especially older children will express the want for their parents to separate.
  • Children reported that they can feel the strain of the tight financial situation after their parents divorced or separated. Children are aware of sacrifices their parents have to make after the divorce and can sense the stress that money has caused on both of their parents.
  • Many children will play the blame game. Many children are upset after because of their parents separation and often times rebel against the change. Many children will blame their parents, or play the blame game at school or with friends as they project their emotional stress onto others.
  • Adults who are products of divorce even struggle as adults. They say oftentimes it has affected their own relationships and trust.
  • Children do not like hearing their parents badmouth one another. It is important not to bad mouth to your kids about their parents, they often take it personal or will build resentment towards the person talking bad about the other person.
  • Children often report that they are happy to see their parents thrive after the divorce. They say they are glad when the fighting stops and when the parents seem to be happy and even find other people to build healthy relationships with.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at https://zoom.us/download.


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at gabe@amsmediationplus.com.


New Clients Welcome

We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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