Am I Really Ready For DivorceMany people say that getting a divorce is one of the most stressful life events. It takes a huge emotional and financial toll, and if you have children, the impact does not stop with you. Your children also must adapt to the change as well. Divorce impacts you financially, socially and is a dramatic change to your family dynamic. Deciding if you are truly ready involves much thought and reflection and can take months and sometimes longer. Here are some of the questions you can ask yourself to determine if you are ready for the next step:

1. Do you still love your spouse? It is easy to contemplate a change in your life when you are angry, hurt or upset. But, when the dust settles, do you still love your partner? If the answer is yes, you may not yet be ready to end your marriage.
2. Are you threatening to divorce, or do you mean it? In the heat of an argument, it is easy to threaten divorce, but you should ask yourself if you really mean it. Are you saying this to be hurtful or are you really ready to end this chapter of your life? If so, it is wise to consider communicating about this with your spouse when tempers cool so that you can try to work together toward a solution for a separation.
3. Are you prepared to handle the difficulty that will follow a divorce: Each marriage is unique and each divorce is too. If you are ready to end your marriage, you should be able to think about the things that will change in your life (sharing custody of your children, moving, etc.). If you find that you are thinking of divorce but not yet ready to think about how this will impact the rest of your life, you may still be coming from a place of emotion and need a bit more time to resolve that.
4. Do you have an agenda when you talk about divorce: The only agenda you should have, if you are ready to divorce, is to actually end your marriage. If you are hoping that talking about divorce will push your partner to change his/her habits or treat you differently, consider working with your partner first before using language about divorce.

Divorce Mediation Services in Minnesota

AMS Mediation offers divorce mediation services for couples who have made the difficult decision to divorce. We can help you with all aspects of the divorce process including providing emotional support, guidance, coaching and helping you and your partner settle the terms of your divorce. Struggling to decide whether you are ready to divorce is completely normal. Our free consultation can help answer your questions about the process, which can sometimes help you make the difficult decision. Call us at 952-252-1492 for more information.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

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New Clients Welcome

We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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