Trust & Respect = Acknowledge children’s right to their own feelings, friends, activities & opinions. Promote independence & allow privacy. Respect feelings for other parent. Believe your children.
Promote Emotional Security = Talk and act so that children feel safe & comfortable expressing themselves. Be gentle & dependable.
Provide Physical Security = Provide food, shelter, clothing. Teach personal hygiene & nutrition. Maintain a family routine. Monitor safety & treat injuries.
Provide Discipline = Be consistent. Set clear and age appropriate limits & expectations. Use discipline to instruct, not punish.
Give Time = Participate in your children’s activities, school, sports, special events/days, celebrations, and with their friends. Include your children in your activities. Allow your children to see who you are and what you believe.
Encourage and Support = Be affirming and patient. Encourage individual interests. Teach new skills & recognize improvement. Allow disagreement and mistakes.
Give Affection = Provide verbal & physical affection. Be affectionate when children are physically and emotionally hurt.
Care for Yourself = Make time for yourself. Stay healthy, maintain friendships and accept love. Ask for and accept assistance from family and friends.
Source: Adapted from Domestic Abuse Intervention Project –Duluth