Emotional Needs of Children…

13 Things Kids Want Parents to Know…

  1. We need to know you love us, will protect us, and won’t leave us.
  2. Help us get organized for going back and forth. Be patient.
  3. Listen to our questions and opinions even if you don’t agree.
  4. Accept that we need a lot of time to adjust, even when we don’t show it.
  5. Keep your conflicts and dislike of each other out of sight and earshot.
  6. Keep us out of the middle of your problems.  We are just kids.
  7. Don’t ask us to spy, pass messages, or listen to you put-down the other parent.
  8. Give us a chance to talk with kids who are also going through this experience.
  9. Help us express and learn how to manage our feelings.
  10. Give us space and time to grieve the loss of our old life at our own pace.
  11. Confide in people your own age.  We are not your substitute spouse or friend.
  12. Tell us we aren’t to blame for your problems.  We can’t fix them either.
  13. Show us it’s okay to love and want to be with both of you.
  • Please remember that I want both of you to be a part of my life.  I count on both of you to raise me, teach me what is important, and help me when I have problems.
  • Please stop fighting in front of me or where I can hear you.  When you fight about me, I think that I did something wrong and I feel guilty
  • Please say only nice things about my other parent, or don’t say anything at all.  When you say mean things about my other parent, I feel like you are putting me down and expecting me to take your side.
  • I want to love you both and enjoy the time that I spend with each of you. If you act jealous or upset, I feel like I need to take sides and love one of you more than the other. Please support me and the time that I spend with each of you.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at https://zoom.us/download.


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at gabe@amsmediationplus.com.


New Clients Welcome

We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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