MY EX’S SIGNIFICANT OTHER/SPOUSE INTERFERES WITH PARENTING. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

As you are keenly aware, there are many changes that come up after a divorce has been settled.  Once your divorce becomes official, your relationship shifts, but does not end, particularly if you share children.  In the months and years after a divorce many significant changes can occur.  A parent may change jobs and need to relocate, dramatically altering the parenting time agreement, or one parent may remarry and you suddenly have to adjust to a new dynamic.  AMS Mediation of Burnsville, MN, offers a wide variety of parenting and divorce mediation services that can help you and your family navigate and solve any number of difficult changes after a divorce is settled.

Handling Changes Post-Divorce

If you find yourself in a situation where your ex-spouse’s significant other is interfering with your parenting dynamic, you should take some time to think through a plan for communicating clearly and without anger or judgment.  Here are some tips for managing this situation or another significant change that comes up after a divorce:

  • Deal directly with the co-parent: If your ex’s significant other is interfering with your parenting plan or intercepting communication between you and your ex-spouse, it is perfectly acceptable to ask to speak directly with your ex-spouse regarding all things related to your children. It is reasonable to expect to communicate primarily with your ex, rather than with your ex-husband’s new wife or ex-wife’s new husband.
  • Use clear communication: Clear communication and clear expectations are some of the best strategies for eliminating problems related to child custody issues and/or a parenting plan.  Do not be afraid to be open and honest about your questions and concerns.
  • Get help when you need it: If clear communication and working directly with your ex does not work, then it may be time to seek the help of a neutral third party to help you sort out the issue at hand.  A mediator can be hired at any time after a divorce to facilitate communication regarding parenting time or a child custody issue that cannot be resolved by the parents.  This is often much easier than going through the court system for every issue that comes up.

Support For Your Family After A Divorce

AMS Mediation offers many useful parenting support resources to help families through the divorce process and beyond.  If you would like more information about how our team can support you through difficult changes after a divorce, give us a call today at 952-252-1492 to set up a time for a free one hour consultation.

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