It is a common experience when you are an adult to hear from someone you trust that, in the long run, going through something truly difficult now will likely prove to be a good thing. Having a very bad boss and an unhealthy work situation, for example, could result in the immediate stress of leaving the job for an uncertain future. However, when you get a new and better job, hindsight allows you to understand that the new and better job would not have been possible without the initial, very undesirable job forcing a decision. There are many parallels between the employment stress described above and the realities of going through a divorce. AMS Mediation can help you navigate the difficulties of divorce.
A Collaborative Approach To Divorce
When a married relationship begins to fail, stress can become constant. Sometimes, the decision to seek divorce can actually help to ease the tension that has built up during the course of the relationship. Stress is likely to return, though, when the couple realizes that there are specific steps that need to be taken in order to legally bring an end to the marriage. Historically, couples would hire attorneys and seek to end their marriages through the court system, which is a costly, time consuming, and stressful means of achieving a divorce. Even the courts recognize these facts and, as a result, judges frequently and strongly encourage divorcing couples to pursue divorce mediation instead.
Benefits Of Divorce Mediation Over Litigation
For most couples, divorce mediation is a better option than proceeding through the court. Divorce mediation does not involve hiring attorneys, so couples feel the automatic benefit of the comparative cost. Beyond cost, though, divorce mediation replaces the adversarial nature of court-based divorce with a supportive, cooperative, collaborative approach. The first time a divorcing couple recognizes that, while they may always have conflict between them, there are still areas of common ground. Stress begins to lessen, and progress is being made.
This is an especially powerful phenomenon when the divorcing couple has children. Children are ideal sources of motivation to find common ground for most divorcing couples. Even when the conflict between divorcing parents is extreme, they often understand that their adult relationship should not have more of an adverse impact on their children than it needs to. Divorce mediation encourages the couple to work together for the benefit of their children, but even if the couple has no children, the collaborative approach allows the divorcing couple to recognize that divorce can be the difficult beginning to a process of moving on to something better. Call AMS Mediation at 952.252.1492 to find out more about how the divorce mediation process can help you.
