Should I Work With A Lawyer Or Mediator For My DivorceMany people assume that working with a lawyer to navigate a divorce is a necessary path forward. The assumption is that a lawyer will fight for your rights and help you “win” a settlement that will be in your best interest long-term. This win/lose outcome is one of the most problematic aspects of settling your divorce with the courts. Litigation is adversarial and pits you and your ex against each other. This is difficult during the divorce but also has its drawbacks when it comes to the aftermath as well. Particularly if you share children, finding common ground is much more important than winning a single battle. Mediation offers you a safe and effective way to resolve the important aspects of your divorce without a win/lose solution.

Divorce Mediation Or Divorce Litigation?

It is surprising for some to learn that you do not have to hire a lawyer to represent you during a divorce. If you choose to settle your divorce via mediation, you can negotiate yourself, with more control of the outcome as well as your time and financial commitment. Your mediator serves as a neutral third party and helps facilitate a positive and productive discussion about issues like division of property and parenting time. Instead of a win or lose situation, the goal of mediation is actually to put your children first and find solutions that are workable and make sense for your family. You know your family dynamic best and mediation allows you to shape the decisions for your future.

Benefits of Mediated Divorce

The Minnesota courts actually encourage couples to try mediation before going to court. If mediation is unsuccessful, you can always escalate your case to litigation and hire attorneys. Mediation is generally approximately 80% successful and costs anywhere from 20-50% less than litigation, so it is a worthwhile option to consider. If needed, you can hire a lawyer to work with you during mediation. In addition, a lawyer can help you file the final paperwork with the court system, once the process is complete.

Minnesota Divorce Mediation Services

AMS Mediation is a trusted Minnesota divorce mediation firm that can help you navigate the terms of your divorce without having to hire a lawyer. We focus on helping you achieve a fair, balanced and workable solution for your family. For more information or to schedule a time for a free consultation, call Amber Serwat at 952-252-1492.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at


New Clients Welcome

We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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