The pandemic has been very tuff on all families. And if you and your spouse have decided to divorce, then it is likely that you had some significant conflict in your marriage. You might assume that this conflict will linger into the divorce process, but it does not have to. Here are some strategies for minimizing conflict as you navigate the divorce process:
1. Communication: Strong communication is the key to a low conflict divorce. Try your best not to communicate out of anger or emotion, but instead focus on clear and even professional communication. Focus on outcomes, logistics and anything that might become emotional or contentious, consider handling with the help of a mediator, attorney or communicate in writing.
2. Focus on your future not your past: Your past is likely very painful and difficult – which may be one of the main reasons that you are moving forward with your divorce. Once you have made this difficult decision, it is best to focus on the path ahead of you, rather than your past. This can improve your overall outlook and lead to more positive communication between you and your ex.
3. Consider mediation rather than litigation: A court battle very often increases the overall conflict between two parties. It is a win/lose prospect, but in many ways, no one really wins. Litigation can take months to settle, leaving painful wounds open and making closure difficult to find. Mediation, on the other hand, empowers you and your ex to work together for solutions about parenting time, dividing your assets and even spousal maintenance and/or child support. Mediation is built on the concept of compromise, which generally reduces the overall conflict between a divorcing couple.
4. Remember that divorce is the beginning of a new part of your relationship: It is easy to feel like divorce is the “end” of your marriage, but if you share children, it is also the beginning of a new phase of your relationship. Try to keep this in mind when you are navigating the divorce process. You will likely need to communicate with your ex and solve problems together long after your divorce is final. Working together during divorce can lay a positive foundation for future interactions.
Benefits Of Mediation Over Litigation
AMS Mediation specializes in helping couples through the divorce process with less stress and conflict. We recognize that we cannot take all of the conflict away, but our training and experience can reduce the conflict so that you can begin to heal. For more information about our divorce mediation services, call us at 952-252-1492 to schedule a free consultation.