Key Truths about Divorce:

  1. Regardless of process, most divorce cases settle before going to trial; a significant number never see the inside of a courtroom.
  2. You are the expert in your life.
  3. You are capable of making fair and reasonable decisions about your future.
  4. You have choices when deciding how to proceed with you divorce.
  5. Self-determined agreements yield better results than imposed outcomes.

Steps for Success during Divorce

  1. Thoughtfully consider how you want your future to unfold in the short and long term.
  2. Educate yourself about different methods of divorce settlement.
  3. Carefully interview professionals (attorneys, mediators, evaluators,, etc.) prior to retaining their services.
  4. Select a process that supports and encourages self-determination, provides timely resolution and conserves financial resources.
  5. Hire professionals who understand and will respect your needs and preferences including the needs and long-term well-being of your children.
  6. Be actively involved in seeking self-determined outcomes and be fully engaged with your professionals; listen to their guidance but remember, this is your life and you are the one who has to live with the outcomes.
  7. Understand all of the associated costs of a course of action before implementing it. Consider benefits (gains) compared to cost (losses), stress, as well as negative effects on the children and/or parenting.
  8. Speak up and address your concerns if you feel the process is not fulfilling your needs or is out of control.
  9. Your professionals work for you. If after addressing your concerns with them directly, they are not responding to your needs or providing the type of service you want, hire another professional.

Written by Amber M. Serwat, MA for Christine Clifford and published in her book: The Clue Phone’s Ringing…it’s For You!

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The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


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We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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