With so many negative examples of confrontation out there these days, it may be tempting to respond to your ex’s new spouse or significant other by treating it like a road-rage incident or an anonymous angry response on social media. But do not give in to that temptation. AMS Mediation knows that there are other, more effective and productive ways to respond to the interference of your ex-spouse’s new partner’s intrusions in the parenting of your children.

It is important to remember that even the best post-divorce relationships can have thorny issues pop up from time to time. Your former spouse’s new partner may well be acting with your children’s best interests in mind, but good intentions do not always translate and may instead trigger feelings of anger, annoyance, frustration and concern. Of course, if you have concerns of a more serious nature (for example, if your spouse’s new partner is endangering your children or is creating emergent situations), you should be contacting the authorities. But in the vast majority of situations, the new partner of your former spouse is likely to be violating something of a less formal and less emergent nature. Still, such circumstances need to be addressed.

Importance of Communication After Divorce

As it is true in most situations, good communication is important. Start by assessing the communication between you and your ex. If that person’s partner is getting in the way of good communication, restate with your former spouse the importance that communication about your kids should take place only between the two of you. This reestablishes the boundaries that a good mediator will help you set.

It is important for you to be clear about your expectations, especially if they concur with the divorce agreement you have created with your former spouse. The more clear-headed you can remain when communicating about this kind of issue, the more likely you are to achieve the result you’re looking for. And, once again, resist the temptation to rage at your former spouse’s new partner.

Post-Divorce Mediation

If approaching the situation in this manner does not solve the problem, consider contacting AMS Mediation for more specific and direct assistance. We will be happy to talk with you during a free consultation about approaches that are available to address your concerns. Mediation is an ideal tool to use for issues that come up after a divorce is final, so that you do not have to proceed through the court system to solve a problem. Our team has the expertise and experience to help you and your former spouse establish clearer expectations so that your parenting agreement can be honored without interference from the new person in your ex’s life.

Contact us at 952.252.1492 or email amber@amsmediationplus.com for more information about our post-divorce mediation services. We can help you find a way forward, so that you are comfortable with the interaction your ex’s new spouse is having with your children.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at https://zoom.us/download.


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at gabe@amsmediationplus.com.


New Clients Welcome

We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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