Oftentimes many divorced couples find it difficult or even impossible to negotiate after their divorce. Although some couples are able to be fairly respectful of one another and work together in divorce mediation, this does not mean you should compare yourself to them. More than most, divorces are not this smooth. Due to things that have happened in the past, complex emotions arise and make it extremely difficult to negotiate with one another. If you are experiencing the troubles of not being able to negotiate it will be very beneficial for the two of you to go to a mediator in order to delegate.
As a divorce mediator, I am trained to assist people in putting their emotions aside and focus on the relevant issues. My job it to keep you on track and accomplish a productive conversation. If the two of you can not keep on track during important conversations, this is unproductive and guidance may be necessary. Rest assured, there will be no judgement or criticism during these meetings, my goal is to treat each party with respect and guide you two to resolve important issues. My professional and foremost personal experience has taught me that both emotions and conflicts tend to diminish through the course of our work together. Professional guidance is often a key factor of success. As you progress through the process, you will likely come to understand why mediation is so successful at alleviating some of the non-monetary transactional costs of divorce.
Other Benefits to Divorce Mediation
Divorce mediation is a process that allows you to complete your entire divorce in less time, with reduced conflict and with less expense than the traditional legal system.
Benefits of a Mediated Divorce:
● Significantly Controls costs, both financially and emotionally
● Opportunity to be creative and address important non-legal issues
● Benefits children by reducing conflict
● Establishes a foundation for effective co-parenting
● Mediated agreements tend to be more satisfying than imposed court orders
● Focuses on the present and future, not the past
You may be surprised to know that most MN mediation cases (as high as 80-90%) are settled before they ever reach a courtroom. Mediation is so effective that the State of Minnesota requires you make a good faith effort to settle your divorce through Alternative Dispute resolution (ADR) before appearing in Court.
Do not give up hope if you feel like your divorce is more complicated than most others. Mediation helps cases and we can help you.