Minnesota Divorce HelpA divorce is a seismic shift in the world of a child, most often signaling a huge loss — the loss of their family unit. All children, from infants to even adult children are impacted by a parent’s divorce. The first step is to try and understand that the impact is real and find ways to offer support depending on their age and temperament. Here are some overall age specific guidelines for supporting your kids through a pending divorce.

Under 18 months: Children under the age of 18 months will feel the tension between two parents but do not yet understand anything behind the conflict. Verbal communication skills are limited, so you may notice that they become more clingy and have trouble with separation. The most helpful thing that you can do to comfort a young child during a divorce is to offer a schedule and security, particularly around mealtimes and bedtime.

18 months-3 years: Toddlers this age are very egocentric and may feel a separation acutely and blame themselves. This may lead to more crying and tantrums than usual, and regression on things like potty training and falling asleep alone at night. It is important to maintain any/all aspect of a routine, provide extra love and attention and trying to explain the basics of the situation so that it is clear from this young age that this separation is not their fault.

3 years-6 years: Preschool age kids tend to also internalize the divorce and may blame themselves for the change. The actual change will be particularly difficult for this age group, as they thrive on a predictable routine. The good news is that at this age, the kids can begin to understand more, so open conversations about the divorce and what exactly will happen as a result can yield positive results.

6 years – 11 years: School-age kids may feel a sense of loss and fear related to a concern about losing one parent or the other. These kids may feel rejected, as if the parents are actually divorcing them. It is important to pay attention to building self-esteem, and encouraging kids to have social outlets and participate in extracurricular activities can be helpful. An open communication style is also critical for this age group.

Mediation As A Tool For Helping Families During A Divorce

Our Mediation and Parenting Services can help you and your ex-spouse find solutions for a separation or divorce that work for your unique family structure, paying special attention to the needs of your children. If you would like more information about how mediation can help your family through this difficult transition, contact AMS Mediation at 1-952-252-1492.


The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.


Offering All Services Virtually

While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at https://zoom.us/download.


Limited In-Person Services

We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.


Office Hours

Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at gabe@amsmediationplus.com.


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We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!

Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!


Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant

Divorce Mediation & Dispute Resolution Services - Amber Serwat Mediation

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