Mediation for Peaceful Co-Parenting

Trying to work on an agreement on your own is difficult and it can become messy.  Letting the courts do it for you is expensive and it won’t always turn out well for either party.  If your goals are getting the most out of the process and coming to a fair and peaceable resolution, the family and divorce mediation process makes the most sense.  Mediators are good at creating an atmosphere where both parties feel comfortable.  They will work with you to highlight a way that both parties can be satisfied with the outcome.

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Custody Mediation is About the Children

The thought of dealing with custody mediation as a result of a divorce or custody dispute is overwhelming.  A custody or parenting agreement can be emotionally difficult, but the most important thing to remember about mediation for custody and parenting is that everyone involved should be focusing on what is in the best interest of the child.  It is not the time to place the parents’ needs over the child’s.  The only emotions anyone should be focusing on are those of the child.  Parents will have the opportunity to address their issues at the appropriate time.

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Conclusion Of Children and Conflict Series

Using “I” Statements

I statements are an effective way to communicate needs in an unemotional & non-adversarial.

Statements are specific and focused.

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Children and Conflict Series Part 10

Managing Anger

We experience emotions through physical sensation such as heart rate, breathing rate, aches and pains, electrical currents.  Communication and behaviors which come out of emotion are often ineffective.  Use your head, not your heart and examine the other’s intentions before reacting.   Anger is a reaction – not an emotion.

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Children and Conflict Series Part 9

Parenting Commitment Statement:

Creating a Parenting Commitment Statement helps you focus on parenting your children in the present and can help guide your behavior during challenging times and disagreements with your parenting partner.  You can do this with your parenting partner or alone.  Focus on your values as a parent and what you believe your children deserve and need from you.  Write your commitment statement in terms your children can understand, share it with them and post it where you and your children can see it on a daily basis.  You may also choose to define specific behaviors which support your commitment statement.

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