Co-parenting after your divorce is final can be challenging. After all, you likely had very good reasons for deciding to divorce your partner, so you may wish that you did not have to continue regular contact and communication. However, co-parenting is a new phase of your relationship, and it is extremely important – especially for your children – to find ways to communicate in a positive and healthy way.
Sharing custody of your children is difficult for all involved. After all, when you had your kids, you imagined that you would likely live together as a family and see your kids most every day. Sharing custody after a divorce means that you are splitting that time with your ex. It is important to consider how to set up a custody agreement that will work for your family in the long term. Generally, in Minnesota, the courts want you to try to resolve the terms of your divorce (including a custody agreement) using an alternative dispute resolution technique instead of litigation. Post divorce issues are very hard to estimate unless you have a crystal ball.
It is critically important that you can trust those that you hire to help you with important life events. Whether it is a medical provider, an attorney, or another professional, you need to find someone who is honest, fair, reliable and dependable. The team at AMS Mediation has become a leading mediation team in the state of Minnesota, offering a wide variety of mediation and coaching services that can help you navigate conflict
It is a somewhat common myth that the court system favors the mother in divorce custody disputes. These assumptions are based on the long held tradition that mothers are, generally speaking, more often the primary caregivers for the children in a family. Today, however, it is just as common for mothers to work outside the home and child custody agreements are based on what is in the best interest of the children, not on who spends more time at home…
It is a common experience when you are an adult to hear from someone you trust that, in the long run, going through something truly difficult now will likely prove to be a good thing. Having a very bad boss and an unhealthy work situation, for example, could result in the immediate stress of leaving the job for an uncertain future. However, when you get a new and better job, hindsight allows you to understand that the new and better job would not have been possible without the initial, very undesirable job forcing a decision. There are many parallels between the employment stress described above and the realities of going through a divorce
A divorce is a marker for a huge life change. You will no longer be sharing your daily life, your property with your spouse. Divorce means that you will live separate lives. For the most part, this is likely exactly what you are hoping for. However, one thing that can be extremely difficult to determine is how to develop a custody agreement that works for the entire family. Sharing custody can be one of the biggest adjustments
The safety of clients, ourselves, and colleagues is our top priority while we remain available to assist you as you navigate the new and uncharted territory caused by the coronavirus pandemic.
While providing virtual ADR services was not part of our plan, we have made the necessary accommodations to ensure we can continue to serve our clients during these unsettling times. All services are currently available through virtually. We are using Zoom for videoconferencing. We suggest that you download this app to your phone or the program to your computer at https://zoom.us/download.
We have resumed limited in-person services for sessions with 1 or 2 participants scheduled for a maximum of 2 hours. Masks are required in our building and in session. Availability is subject to change based on local regulations and CDC guidelines.
Our office hours remain the same and we remain available by phone and email. The main office number is 952.252.1492. Gabe can be reached via email at gabe@amsmediationplus.com.
We offer free 1-hour divorce consultations via Zoom. Potential PC and PTE clients are invited to schedule a free 15-minute phone call. Please call 952.252.1492 to set up an appointment. We are here to help!
Thank you for your patience and understanding as we all continue to adapt to these rapidly changing and chaotic times. Stay strong, stay resilient, and stay healthy!
Sincerely,
Amber Serwat & Gabe Frye
ADR Professional & ADR Assistant
